Thursday, February 14, 2013

forgive and forget

Sometimes memories can be a beautiful thing, but sometimes they aren't. I thought I forgave and forgot but it seems that those memories always come back to haunt me in some shape or form.

When i was little my mom used to say, "If you haven't been able to forgive and forget a small problem or hurt, than a similar situation will present itself until you are able to be at peace with it". I would laugh and often times roll my eyes at the thought of a similar situation presenting itself. When you are little the way you perceive pain or betrayal seems so much stronger than when you come into adulthood and mature. I've come to learn that no matter how much you grow up pain is pain and if it hurt you years ago it will still hurt unless you move on.

 All these years have gone by and I could have sworn I had forgotten things that were done to me in the past, but when just a smidgen of the past poked through the wall i built up i felt it all crumble down around me. I want so bad to go back in time and truly forgive the things that were done to me, it seems so much harder now than it did before.

 I believe this is a life lesson that will one day come in handy to share with someone perhaps going through the same thing...


  1. I agree, Gracie; memories can go both ways. There are so many things I want to hold on to, but at the same time there are things I remember that come back to haunt me. Usually in my case it's things I feel guilty about, but after reading your post it seems to me that whether you regret something you've done (like me) or remember something that was done to you (like you), the feelings are pretty similar. And in both cases, they're hardly positive! I really hope that everything works out for you, though, and I'm sending big hugs. <3

    1. OOO Taylor Lynn it is so wonderful to hear from you :) I have been gone for so long but i always keep you and your sweet family in my thoughts!!!

      In regards to your comment i completely agree, thank you for such a sweet response! I hope its all working out for you as well, BIG HUGS!!!

    2. Aw, thank you! I've thought of you during your absence, too, and I'm so glad to hear from you again and get an update as to what's going on in your life. :)